Self – Control

S-E-L-F  C-O-N-T-R-O-L


You  denying yourself….

If you really think about it, it is almost close to impossible,

but then again it can be very real if you continuously practise denying yourself  which is (self-control).

This reading is just a mere unfolding of the truth sometimes we really don’t want to face. Lack of self control is the pinnacle behind our relational dysfunction or immoral personal behaviour.

Imagine some of these different situations:

  1. You love food/drinking so much that you discard a boundary between normal and excessive consuming. With time  you get obese or develop some heart disease and fail to understand how you got there.
  2. You started engaging in sexual activity at a very young age kissing/ touching/ fondling or sex. You have never been denied the pleasure unless at your own account. You grow up and find yourself in a long commitment but struggle to keep with one partner.

I could mention a whole lot of other habits we pick up in the world from pornography, stealing, lying etc as they all eventually lead to one point – results of lacking self-control.

 Self-control is acknowledged as one of the characteristics of the Spirit of God – Gal 5:22-23 “but the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, long-suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control” 

“My people suffer because of lack of knowledge”….

how many times have we heard that statement?  Without knowledge of who God is in your life and what you are purposed to do, it is easy to engage in other activities that corrupt your personality and ultimately your surrounding circumstances. Self control is a learned behaviour, that one can only teach themselves through the power of the Holy Spirit as it is His gift to you.

Another thing, ignorance is bliss right?… It is for a certain time until reality kicks. This reality is infidelity, addictions, tantrums and or various chronic diseases. It’s no lie that resisting pleasure is difficult. BUT looking at it in a different spectrum, the difficulty is really only in the mind. Exercising Self control is exercising Discipline in the mind. I believe people have the ability to save themselves from a whole lot of costs to keep a diet as a result of obesity or baggage and hurt from unfaithfulness in marriages/ relationships because Self control was never learned.

If your feeling strongly on this topic, encouraging you to meditate on Romans 12:2-

Do not conform to the patterns of this world, but be changed by the renewing of the mind, then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

a Simple declaration for everyday : Lord, thank you that i am a new creation in Christ Jesus and because i have the Holy Spirit, teach me your character of Self Control. As i give my body to you, renew my mindset from strongholds such as lust, excessive eating etc (your habitual problem). In Jesus Name.

peace and so much love  ❤




3 thoughts on “Self – Control

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  1. Hi Rufaro i’m one of regulars here, you are really on point, you are touching real issues that are affecting lots of young people out there. Keep it up. I wish you can write a lil of politics as well.


  2. wow! I have been moved by this post because of the little area in my life where I need to exercise really is needed. Thanks for the post

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